Thought I'd post a quick update on something I noticed tonight regarding the issue(s) in this thread.
I'd been using Nividia driver 532.03 for my 3060 per Manni's suggestion somewhere above and have had no dropped or repeated frames in JRVR for a few weeks now with it doing the tone mapping (i.e., "Use the display's HDR capability for HDR videos (if available)" is unchecked).
Tonight, when I updated Windows (a cumulative update to 22H2), there was on option through Windows Update to update "Nvidia - Display," which apparently installed driver version 537.70. After, just to see if this more recent driver worked or not, I watched an entire 4K episode of a show (about 53 minutes) and had 0 dropped or repeated frames.
In looking at my driver update history in Windows Update, it looks like there was one of these "Nvidia - Display" updates last week (on December 6th) too, and as I said, I haven't had any dropped/repeated frames since I installed the older driver noted above; I'm not sure, however, if that 12/6 update changed the driver, as I didn't notice the update in the first place, nor had I looked at the driver version in a while before tonight.
At any rate, maybe a secret with Nvidia drivers is to let Windows install them via this "Nvidia - Display" thing and not go through Nvidia itself? At least for us non-gamers?
I also see in the list of older drivers on the Nvidia site that 537.70 isn't listed. Not sure what that means.
Anyway, FYI.