No, you're not the only one! I use Theater View, DLNA and JRemote (Gizmo views) and very rarely actually use Standard view to browse and play. So every time I make a change, the easiest way to do it is to do it in Standard view then go into Theater View, DLNA and Gizmo individually and then copy the view from Standard view. At least I don't have to manually set things up in each area.
A more unified approach has been asked for many times, but I think the response has been that the different areas are intended for different devices and more often than not Standard views won't work the same on other devices. But I don't understand why that is so, in my experience I want an exact copy of thee views in all areas, regardless of what devices are used to browse them.
I think a better way would be one single library of views and then, in each area, build a browsing structure consisting of items from the central library. The link would be maintained so that if a view is changed in the central library it also changes automatically in all the areas that it has been used. If you need a custom view for one area only then that is still possible - set it up in the central library and then simply don't use it in the areas that you don't want to use it in! I think opponents of a central library think that the library would force the menus to be exactly the same, in all areas, giving you no choice to have different menu structures for each area. That is not so. It is just a place to store your building blocks with which to build individual/custom menus in each area.