ha ha I use a combination of everything.
Usually I use JRemote on an iPad if I'm not sitting in one place (kitchen is semi open to my living room so I can listen from my main stereo still -- its normally there on the counter or near the dining table if I have people over, or I take it with me for external streaming. I use theater View most of the time when I'm browsing for playback or I have friends over that want to choose what to play.
I do have an IR controller, but I use this mostly for volume control/skipping tracks only (or when watching movies maybe). I have a wireless keyboard that is nearby (usually for the web though), as I don't like the search box location in Theater View too much.
I also control and do admin from my Workstation (using mostly standard mode Views as I'm sitting in front of it. This uses studio monitors, and I also use this PC to control music for parties in combo with JRemote in my phone.
However the key element is my Logitech mouse when I'm listening ... it can read on any surface so if I'm lying down, couch potato style, I just use theater view off of my jeans without moving an inch with this -- has one of those fast scrolling free-spinning wheels and a bunch of buttons so that's key. A good mouse that can read off wood, glass, and fabric for me is much better than a pointable IR device. After v16, they took out a lot of mouse functions and started with video and TV. If you are mostly audio, a mouse is much better than a traditional remote, IMHO (unless spouse acceptance factor is important). Personally, I don't like track ball incorporated keyboards. All I really need on the table is a mouse, so its more discrete ... but what's cool with JRiver is you have so many choices to suit everybody's way of doing things.